If he’s wearing one on his left arm, he’s a top. Wristbands (usually black leather) are a clear identifier if someone is a top, bottom or vers. In some places you might even find 90% of guys wearing them (which is super helpful). The first one I look out for is wristbands. Who do you approach? Just like filtering on the apps, there are clues you can look out for to see if someone is compatible with whatever sexual preference you have that day.
Ok, so you’re dressed appropriately, you’ve checked your coat and your attitude at the door and you’ve got night-vision. You can even smile! ? Allow your eyes to adjust Just be yourself, be respectful, be careful and enjoy exploring your sexuality. That kind of toxic behaviour won’t get you anywhere in here. Don’t try to put on a performance that you’re some untouchable stud who’s above everyone else, because you can guarantee that untouched is exactly how you’ll leave.
People will just avoid you altogether.ĭon’t get me wrong, no one expects you to be super masculine.
Rocking up to a cruising bar with a gaggle of your mates, screaming, laughing and taking selfies is NOT the vibe. If you’re too scared to go in by yourself, maybe try it out with one close friend. No darkroom or cruising etiquette guide would be complete without discussing respect and attitude. When in doubt – leave it out! Attitude and behaviour Chris in the cubicle next door might be having the time of his life sniffing his chosen partners’ pits and you can bet that he doesn’t want your stank seeping through the glory hole or under the door. A select few might love it, but most will find it overpowering, invasive and obnoxious. Perhaps you can get away with a spritz of a subtle, inoffensive eau de toilette, but if you show up wearing half a bottle of a Tom Ford Oud eau de parfum, it’s likely going to have the opposite effect to what you’d hoped for.įragrances like that are very polarising. The darkroom however (or the dance floor for that matter), is not the place to try to stimulate people’s olfactory senses. It can change your mood, set the tone of a date and create scent memories. Fragrance is a beautiful way of expressing yourself. They’ll hopefully be coming off anyway! Most places will have lockers or a coat-check so you can change when you arrive.Īnother important thing to consider is fragrance (or better lack-there-of). It’s going to get hot inside so you don’t want to be wearing lots of clothes.
A safe choice would be to go for shorts and a T-shirt/tank top and trainers. No one in here cares if you’re an influencer or how much you spent in Selfridges last weekend – we’re here for one reason only – to fuck! Also, those perfectly white Alexander McQueen trainers are going to look like your old gym shoes by the time you leave, so just leave them at home…ĭepending on the venue/event you could wear something fetish-y or something casual that makes you feel sexy. This isn’t a place for showing off your fashion sense. If you’ve just been for some ‘fabulous’ cocktails and you’re wearing your favourite designer shoes and a dinner jacket, you’re going to feel like a prick as soon as you walk in. Before you even get to the cruising bar, make sure you’re dressed appropriately.